Happy New Year! I hope you had a wonderful New Year’s celebration and that 2014 brings you health, happiness and….focus?
As I stated in my last post, I’ve struggled with my blog’s content and ultimately leaving it untouched for weeks at a time. I’ve decided that I can only fix a problem by doing one thing: develop a plan.
I thus bring you: My Year of Focus. Or, as I like to call it, MYOF
Different from YOLO —> You Outta Look Out.
I’m like everyone else. I’m a busy mom who is trying to balance out work and life, often feeling as though I’m not giving it my all in each part of my life. Rather than continue on with this crazed cycle, I want to address these issues and see if I can find ways to be more clear and better organized in my life.
You’ve likely heard of Gretchen Rubin’s, The Happiness Project. She spent a year exploring different ways to make herself happier in her life. I liked the book, although I found it exhausting by the year’s end. She had committed herself to 12 life changes that seemed impossible to keep up.
That said, she made an effort to de-clutter her life both mentally and physically.
So I’m taking the same approach.
At first, I was going to make it a Scaredy-Cat (get it?) Challenge. I was going to challenge myself each month to try something new that scares me and bring me out of my comfort zone. But I have to be realistic.
We’re a new family with plans to likely expand in the new future (no, mom, I’m not prego!). Committing myself to jump out of a plane when six months’ pregnant isn’t exactly doable. Or responsible. Or Smartable (challenge #1: increase my vocabulary).
When talking about it with my husband over dinner last night, he verbalized it perfectly: “You want to focus.”
This is why I married him.
Each month, I’m going to explore different ways to bring focus into my life.
When you compartmentalize each of our life’s categories, here’s what I came up with:
- Mental Well-being
- Household Responsibilities
- Physical Well-being
- Financial Well-being
- Personal Growth
- Spiritual Growth
I’m going to match each category with a month and finds ways to better focus on this component of my life. As I explore the options, I’ll share information, articles, websites and anything else I come across that addresses each month’s focal point.
Here’s what I’ve got so far:
January: Financial well-being (stick with a budget/stop shopping at Target —–> I’m worried about the withdrawal symptoms)
February: Organization (email inbox/linen closet/work/household duty scheduling —-> super excited about this one!)
March: Physical Growth (try a new sport/class)
April: Nutrition (Give up dairy for one month)
May: Household duties (re-evaluate my cleaning schedule and develop long-term plans to maintain a home)
June: Spouse (be nicer?)
July: Motherhood (be meaner?)
September: Personal Growth (take a class)
October: Spiritual Growth (delve more into religion/my own quest/my child’s relationship with religion)
November: Mental Well-Being (Get Smarter —-> insert joke here. But seriously. SMRT Smarter.)
December: WILD CARD (you, the reader, can decide on my final month’s focal point!)
As you can see, it’s not all set in stone. I may have to re-visit these goals AND I may come up with new ideas along the way. So I don’t want to be too committed to one idea each month.
Also, not every month requires a long-term commitment. For instance, with the organization month in February, I’m going to discover ways to clean out my email inbox and organize my linen closet so that it doesn’t resemble the Monica Closet. Then it’s done, and I move on.
I’ve also left December open to you, the reader. I hope I’m not alone in some of these areas and can’t wait to hear your stories and advice about how you’ve worked on your own challenges. I’ll then take your ideas and implement a focal point for December. I hope it’s not, “Give up Booze”.
Don’t overcommit. I’m only going to commit to a weekly post, so that I don’t feel overwhelmed and give up this plan entirely.
I’m allowed to fail. Even if I fail at one or all of these focal point attempts, I have to cut myself some slack. I’ll have to admit my mistakes and move on.
I’m allowed to bail. If circumstances change, I can switch up my focal-point plans.
I have to enjoy it. The entire point to this process is to relieve some stresses from my life while also pushing me to take avenues that I wouldn’t normally explore. Some areas will be tough, but worthwhile. Others, hopefully, will be fun!
So there you have it. This is my Year of Focus. Big Breath. And Go…